Sad truth: 5 Causes Of Cheating Among OFW Relationships

Nakaranas ka na ba ng cheating?

Yung tipong nung bago pa lang siya o ikaw mangibang bansa, okay naman kayo ng partner mo pero kinalaunan, nagkaka-labuan na?

office-lover-couple-is-walking-together-modern-city-train-station_39408-1726.jpgO baka may kilala kang nagpapanggap na single sa abroad kahit kasal na sa Pilipinas? Ginagawang libangan ang pagkikipag-chat sa iba hanggang sa mauwi na sa seryosohan?

Aminin man natin o hindi, kahit kanino nangyayari ito!
Masakit at mahirap iwasan, pero pwedeng solusyonan.

Cheating or infidelity has been cited as the greatest challenge for OFWs according to Davao Catholic Herald. At ano ang karaniwang kinahahantungan nito? Ang ibang pamilya, nagugulat na lang na hindi na nagpapadala ng pera si kabayan – or worse, ni wala nang paramdam. On the other hand, maya’t maya namang ubos ang padala ni kabayan dahil sa pagwawaldas ng pinapadalhan sa Pinas! Ni hindi na alam ni Kabayan kung ano ba talaga ang nangyayari at kung saan napupunta ang padala.

Ang tanong – BAKIT NANGYAYARI ITO? Pero ang mas dapat na masagot – PAANO ITO SOSOLUSYONAN?

Mahirap mang tanggapin, ito ang katotohanang pinagdaraanan ng karamihan sa ating mga kababayan. GISING! ‘Wag na nating paabutin sa ‘di magandang kahihinatnan! Your BeamerKada‘s got some TIPS for OFWs on why cheating happens and how to handle this issue on the premier episode of PAYONG KABIGAN!

OO! Pati ang pagsisinungaling pagdating sa pera-padala is another form of cheating na patuloy na binibigyang solusyon ng BeamAndGo! Kung ‘di mo pa nasusubukan, umpisahan mo na ngayon! Register for free at www.beamandgo.com and together, let us END CHEATING!

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R-E-S-P-E-C-T: 3 Things We Can Do Everyday

Jackie Robinson once said, “I’m not concerned with your liking or disliking me… All I ask is that you respect me as a human being.”

When I was growing up, my parents gave me and my sisters a lot of leeway. They never said that we needed to be a doctor or a lawyer or an accountant (although both of my sisters eventually became accountants). Nor did they recommend who we should marry or what kind of friends we should have. But they were adamant about one thing: show respect to everyone.

Little JEC

I am not a fan of corporal punishment, but it worked on me.

My dad was never shy in giving me the belt if I showed any disrespect to anyone, no matter what the circumstances and no matter where we were at.

And my mom always said, “If someone disrespects you, that is their problem. You ALWAYS show respect to others.”

When I started my company, I wanted to be crystal clear that showing respect was of the utmost importance. Respect would be the cornerstone of the firm and be embodied by all the employees from the newbie all the way to the CEO.

What I did was write up a to-do / to-be list of respectful things we can do everyday at work, at play, at home; andĀ with our colleagues, with our friends, and with our family. This became the basis of our company credo.

In our company credo, we have overĀ 30 items. In this post, Iā€™ll share with you the top 3 …

1.Ā Be tolerant of others and like everybody.

I don’t have to tell you that 99% of the problems we have in our world is because of our intolerance to each others differences. Drives me crazy when I see, read or hear about people hurting others based purely on the differences ofĀ their skin color or religion or gender. CRAZY!

So don’t discriminate based on race, gender, religion sexual orientation or favorite basketball team.

“Now, red, white, black, tan, yellow, or brown / It really doesn’t matter, we can all get down.” – Digital Underground’s Doowutchyalike

Also try to listen to others with an open mind. I know we are human, so we will have pre-conceived notions and certain prejudices, but try. You might be surprised by what you hear. And if you don’t agree or don’t like it, that’s cool, at least you tried.

Nice Darth

2. Open doors for others and smile.

It’s not justĀ an actĀ of helping another through the doorĀ but the act exemplifies courteousness and aĀ regardĀ for others. It shows that you care for your fellow person – something we need more of these days.

Plus it’s really easy to do: extend your arm and pull or push (depending on which side of the door you are on).

Real success is not on the stage, but off the stage as a human being, and how you get along with your fellow man.” – Sammy Davis Jr.

Other thingsĀ I advocate areĀ …

Say “thank you” to show gratitude;

Say “excuse me” to be polite;

BeĀ a gracious loser; and

AĀ humble winner.

And speaking of winning …

Ballers

3. Get healthy, stay fit and win.

Showing respect for yourself is just as important as respect for others. Getting and staying healthy is one of the best things you can do for yourself – respect for your body and mind.

In 2008, I went for a checkup and received a scary medical report: my blood pressure was up, my bad cholesterol was also up, and my heart and stamina were down. Not good. This was the result of no exercise and an indulgence in fatty foods. The checkup woke me up; realized I was disrespecting myself by not taking care of my body.

Decided to turn it around and started to swim, bike and run.Ā As I entered my 40s, I started to compete in triathlons and ranĀ 10K and half marathon races.Ā I’ve always loved sports and the races and competition motivated me to continue a healthy lifestyle. And IĀ did getĀ healthier. And I stopped falling sick. I slept better and my general mood became brighter.

And I believe that respecting myself by getting in shape enabled me to be more respectful to others.

AlsoĀ do not neglect the mind. Read more; pay attention to world events; take a class; learn from others; appreciate art; write a blog.

And some other basic do’sĀ andĀ don’tsĀ …

Be on time. Maintain your composure. Be patient. Be encouraging. Be positive. And keep your promises.

Don’t be rude. Don’t lose your temper (“grace used pressure”). Don’t lie. Don’t cheat. Don’t steal.

Like most things that are worthwhile, it will take effort. My mom (and Audrey Hepburn) used to always tell me, “Nothing is impossible. The word itself says ‘I’m possible’.

If you like this article, please share with your loved ones and friends. And if you have any comments or questions, feel free to contact me at jonathan.chua@beamandgo.com. I’d love to hear from you.